Men and internet dating
To be fair, I’ve also learned this by being a black woman.In an effort to preserve sanity, I discovered very early that what is good and beautiful about me doesn’t require external validation.In case you were wondering, being unapologetically “ordinary” has implications beyond online dating. It’s essentially the reason Google started hiring outside of the Ivy League: People who weren’t bred to think they can’t be wrong have an easier time failing with dignity and poise. If someone doesn’t “match” with me (online or in real life), it doesn’t mean I’m less valuable.
That adds up to around 12 hours a week, all in hopes of scoring a date that lasts approx. Modern dating’s not only exhausting – It’s a part-time job!Being overlooked is unpleasant, but this is where average looks are a gift: They free you from the notion that people should fall at your feet.[Amy Schumer’s advice for single women: Keep your standards high] As a middling, I’ve discovered that my inherent greatness won’t always be universally accepted.Make no mistake, beauty is a currency, but it is merely one of many social currencies.I recognize the strength and sensuality of my curves. I laugh like a drunken sailor, and meet people with an open heart.